Do what you can with what you have.

What are you fighting with yourself about today?

•Your life is the complete opposite of what you expected or hoped it would be.

•You’re crying right now. Your eyes are swollen and it’s almost as if everything is falling apart AND to top it off, you’re not eating and you’re losing weight. Your skin is breaking out too.

•You’re not working. You have stuff to take care of but it’s hard for you to find a job right now OR you are working, but your expenses eats all your money away.

•You’re making up excuses as to why you can’t get things done and procrastination is at its peak right now.

•School isn’t going good for you. Your fees are due. Your grades are extremely poor and even though you’re trying to get them to be where you need them to be in effort to graduate; you just can’t seem to get it right.

•You haven’t made any real friends, you’re socially awkward and it’s hard for you to fit in.

•You’re complaining because others are way ahead of you and it’s like you are stuck in the same day each and every day; You’re asking why is it that you’re working so hard, yet you are far behind; You’re asking why life is so cruel to you; better yet, why God is so unfair to you because nothing is going right for you, but everything seems to work as a fortune to others.

•You’re comparing your self to those around you; Wanting to wear a little more make up to feel more beautiful (stop that because in the end material things won’t do anything for you)

•You’re questioning whether you are indeed beautiful enough, talented enough, ambitious enough, tall enough, short enough, slender enough or thick enough.

MISSING the true concept of loving yourself, so instead, you search for that in other people to give your self a lot of validations from them.

Stop that.

•You’re either trying to change yourself for better or for worse or someone is trying to change you into their idea and perception of you.

•A relationship or friendship is crumbling right before your eyes and it seems as if there is nothing you can do about it OR the person you love or want to be with, doesn’t love you back neither do they want to be with you OR you’re stuck pining over someone you so desperately want to get over OR you’re stuck on someone you know is toxic for you but something about that wrong love feels so right. OR the person you’re with whom you love is miles away from you.

•You’re having issues with your parents; they won’t accept you nor the decisions you make for yourself OR you’re the complete opposite of what you portray yourself to be to and for them for the sake of not being judged.

•I bet someone is talking bad about you as we speak and you want to defend yourself so bad.

Someone who is suppose to be your friend; who is supposed to be supporting you, prefers to support strangers before they can even think to uplift you then smile in your face wanting to hear your business.

•you’re hurting yourself. Using razor blades to kiss the lips of your skin to taste the red lipstick because in reality, human connection isn’t of use the way a razor blade satisfies your desires.

(2 yrs free of a razor’s kiss and counting)🌹

•You see death up close and personal sometimes; you exchange conversations with him/her; negotiating your place on this earth OR death came creeping in way too early taking someone you love dearly this year, last year and years before that. (RIP G’ma 9.10.14 🕊🧡)

•Feeling pressured to conform to society’s values and norms 🤦🏾‍♀️ In my opinion. 🤬 🖕🏽society 🚷

(Indigo) 🚺

✔️But hey, That’s all fine. I get it.

You’re struggling. I know and that’s perfectly fine.

Someone who happens to be one of the biggest lights in my life told me , “do what you can; uplift yourself in the best way that you can and never tear yourself down; find what works for you and be you because i love you for you. everything takes time and everything will work itself out.”

And that’s exactly what i’ll tell you because we all go through it. I went through it and i am still going through it.

Time waits on no one and Life isn’t waiting on you so you better not wait on it nor it’s best friend to start acting right.

Get going and keep it moving. Even when you fall; even when you break down and cry and feel like you just can’t be here anymore… I get it. We’re not perfect.

(because i feel that way sometimes too) and this shit is hard 😓

BUT simply remember to do what you CAN & only what you CAN because that’s all that matters. ✌🏾

#StillrebuilingMEgracefully

PROVERBS 16:9

“9. In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”

ps. to the loml, i love you. Your lifted words speak volumes every-time. Thank you for inspiring me to write this for someone else – (MW) 🧡

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Change

It’s crazy isn’t it?

How one minute your life can be so perfect and the next, it’s as if your whole world has just been shattered. Whether it be by a text from someone close to you, or a smart remark by a complete stranger.

My point is, the world that we live in is so dynamic; we’re always hearing things, seeing things, learning things and forgetting things.

In a split second, the life you know today could be a life you can barely recognize tomorrow and we question how because we can never seem to understand.

We question why because we don’t want to understand.

Someone you love could be here today, and gone tomorrow whether it be by death or they stop loving you completely;

Someone you wouldn’t imagine knowing or meeting could have a huge impact on your life in just a matter of seconds, minutes or even hours and those same seconds, minutes or hours could turn into months, years or even a lifetime; A friend you’ve known since forever today could turn into a complete stranger tomorrow; You’re in one country today and in another country tomorrow.

With all these things happening daily,

we search for answers, even when we know those answers still wouldn’t be enough, we still search for reasons we know not of. We still search because we want it all to make sense.

We want the meaning of change to make sense but it never does and we have to accept that whether we like it or not.

what we fail to learn is this. Change happens because it’s suppose to happen and it’s inevitable because the world we live in is constantly evolving in effort for us to grow as individuals. What changes in our lives on a daily basis shapes us for what is to come. We may not like the change the second it happened, but a few years down the road we will be glad the thing we feared the most, is the thing we are most grateful for.

it’s crazy isn’t it?

-Karesha Kennedy

The terrible truth

What you see in front of you isn’t necessarily what you get behind closed doors. As a matter of fact, it’s rarely what you get behind closed doors. 

People wear many faces daily– Work faces, school faces, church faces, party faces, even bed faces. 

People pretend well just to get by due to the excess exhaustion the world brings. 

We judge daily based on our interactions not knowing what lies beneath the surface of things; we judge daily based on the stories we create about other people, not knowing that what they are facing is deeper and greater than that of what we know and with that being done, the stories we create about others writes a story for “the self”. 

Even the judgers are being judged. 

So again, we all wear faces because we don’t want anyone to know our story. 

Believe it or not, the lines on our faces tell how distressed and how over whelmed we are and on the other hand it tells how happy and satisfied we are; they tell the story of who we are and what we are about as well as what it is we ought to become. 

Mankind has shaped itself in such a way where we have to be cautious of what it is that we wish to say and whatever it is that we wish to perceive. In other words, we choose what we want to say and we choose what we want to understand. Why? we don’t want to be judged by the things we say and we don’t want to be judged by the things we understand or don’t understand. As a matter of fact we don’t want to be judged by the things we do. 

Fact of life is, we can’t please anyone in this here life, and the one thing we face daily, is the ability to please our selves. 

We can’t please others or act how we’d like to, so we wear faces to get by and to put up with whatever it is that the world throws at us and that.. 

That is the terrible truth we live in. 

– Karesha Kennedy 
 

Why settle?

Listen, a friendship or a relationship with half benefits is not beneficial at all.

You cannot expect to want the world and you’re not even willing to cross oceans for another person.

Any relationship, whether it be intimate or friendly, deserves reciprocity as well as compromise.

Have you ever heard of a saying that goes, “where much is given, much is expected”?

Where much is given much is definitely expected. You cannot give me 20 and expect 80.

A friend or a significant other that wants but refuses to go out of their way and give because it’s not to their liking, you cut that person off.

What isn’t growing with you, what doesn’t serve you, what doesn’t build with you, what doesn’t contribute to your happiness; you subtract it from your life.

Persons who want to give you a half relationship deserves no relationship.

That’s not love and that’s not the type of love you should be telling yourself that you deserve just because you fear not finding another like that person or you fear losing that person on a whole.

Don’t search for your past in everyone else.

I use to believe that as long as you gave your all to something, it mattered 0 what you got back.. That’s not being respectful to yourself, that’s settling.

Are you gonna settle for what you know you don’t deserve?

You care but there’s a limit to how much you care. You love but there’s a limit to how much you love.

– Karesha Kennedy

 

Be your own anchor

You know what the worst thing in life is. The worst thing in life is wanting to be able to let it all out, to let it go. But you can’t. You can. But you can’t because you feel trapped. The worst thing in life is having a bunch of people say, ” I am here when you need me” yet it feels like the opposite. The worst thing in life is being in a crowded room, surrounded by people who say they are your friends, yet in the midst of all that, you don’t feel like you belong.

You feel as though you are drowning and you want to be saved but at the same time you oppress any hand that is handed to you.

You tell yourself that if you ignore it long enough, it will go away but it doesn’t. It eats at you until it slowly consumes you.

Truth is you’re just tired. You’re tired because for once in your life, for once you’d like someone to be saviour for you to put out the extra effort to be your saviour even if you oppress whatever help they give you. You’d like someone to fight for you because you’re always the one fighting for others.

You need a sweet sweet release and no one can give that to you because the minute you let someone in, they remind you why you didn’t in the first place.

So you try to be that anchor for yourself. Only to you, it still isn’t enough.

You wear a mask for others, you toughen up for others, but you lack such a courage for yourself because you’re simply tired.

But let me tell you this.

You can be tired and be your own anchor. You can be tired without seeking the validations and the approval of others and be your own anchor.

Learn to accept and believe that the world doesn’t revolve around anyone else any more than it does you.

Be your own anchor because the minute you break into the habit of depending on people and they leave you to hold your self up in times when you need them most, you’re gonna find yourself on a bathroom floor, sobbing and wondering..

“How did i get here?”

Don’t get me wrong. At some point in time you’re gonna need people no matter how much you tell yourself you won’t. You need people to get by because nothing sucks more than being by your lonesome in a world where all you want to do is feel like you belong.

Be your own anchor because the only person who can answer the questions floating above your head is you.

We all get tired sometimes. We all get frustrated and we all can’t be bothered with anyone sometimes & that’s okay.

You and only you can provide your sweet sweet release. You and only you can change your world around you; the people around you and the things around you.

You have that control and no one is obligated to take that from you unless you make them.

In a world where nothing makes sense, ensure that above all else, you make sense.

In a world where frustration and hurt is inevitable and the urge to just let go and sink is more than your will to endure it all, remember who you are.

Remember your anchor.
You’re tired. I know. Just don’t be tired for too long.

-Karesha Kennedy

 

Je t’aime Mon amour

Love is like any foreign language spoken. 

You see it, you hear it, you try to understand it and with any opportunity you get, you try to communicate it. 

It is a language not many persons are accustomed to though we were taught to love and taught to receive love from the womb. When you witness something so great first hand, you’re blown away by the full effects it carries with it. 

You say to yourself, “how can I speak something so beautifully, so effortlessly and so fluently like them?”
You see, just like any foreign language, you can learn to love. You can learn to speak it for others to hear it. Especially to the person you need to hear it the most. 

Just like any foreign language that we are unfamiliar with, we a have a choice to learn it. 

Just like any foreign language and having a conversation, reciprocation is important. If we are truly engaged in giving and receiving love, we ought not to question anything that comes after. Learning to love isn’t easy, learning a new language isn’t easy at first either. But the more you allow yourself to accept that you want to be apart of something beautiful, is the more you are willing to learn and the more your body convinces you that this is how you want to feel. 

Just like any foreign language you see on paper and you try to translate it, with your actions you can say what you mean with love, and mean what you say. 

Just like any foreign language, you can listen to love– “Tell me when you’re home, how was your day, I love you”. 

Just like any foreign language, you can understand love in effort to be understood. 

As the author Samantha King said, “we were born to love, but cursed to feel” and just like any language, we were born to communicate, but words hurt and hurt is inevitable, however, how we respond to such a hurt is solely dependent on us; how we respond to the way we are loved is dependent on us. How we respond to any language spoken to us, is dependent on us. 

Be patient with this language that we were taught naturally, be kind with this language, be obedient with this language for this language as the ancient greeks termed it, is the “madness of the Gods”.
-Karesha Kennedy